The Fantasy Loop™
The 7 Stages
It's not love. It's the Loop.
- Emotional Emptiness - the inner void that opens the door to being addicted to unavailable love.
- Activation - an unavailable person appears and triggers a deep longing, often leading to emotional addiction.
- Fantasy Projection - the mind fills in what isn't there, creating a fantasy loop that can lead to limerence.
- On-and-Off Reinforcement - mixed signals create a dopamine addiction, making it hard to break free from trauma bonding.
- Obsession & Self-Abandonment - as reality fades, fantasy takes over, fueling the cycle of being addicted to unavailable love.
- Collapse / Withdrawal - when the fantasy cracks, the pain sets in, revealing the harsh truth behind emotional addiction.
- Reattachment to Fantasy - instead of healing, we search for a new loop, often falling back into the patterns of limerence.
The Book Is Coming
The Fantasy Loop™ — the book.
The framework that started as a personal map for healing is becoming the book Brianne wishes had existed when she needed it most.
The Fantasy Loop is a full nonfiction book — grounded in neuroscience, attachment theory, and the lived experience of breaking cycles that therapy alone couldn't touch. It's for the person who has done everything right and still finds themselves here again. For the therapist whose client can name their attachment style and still can't let go. For anyone who needs more than awareness — who needs a map.
It is being written now.
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Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict
"Smart, raw, and irresistibly candid." — Emily Giffin, New York Times bestselling author of Something Borrowed
She survived the chaos of emotional addiction. Now she must confront the battle within herself. This novel dives deep into breaking the Fantasy Loop — revealing that the soulmate you've been searching for was you all along. Roxanne gets sober and gains clarity, believing the toughest challenges are behind her. Yet, they are only beginning. This is the true story of life after hitting rock bottom, where the real work of choosing yourself each day starts — even when it's monotonous, and even when it's hard. It’s a journey through limerence, trauma bonding, and the humorous, raw, and painfully real moments that define us.
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Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict
My Relationships are Killing Me (But They Feel Like Love)
Secret Life of a Hollywood Sex & Love Addict
“A powerful, raw and vulnerable read."
—OLIVIA MUNN, actress, The Newsroom, X-Men: Apocalypse
Where it all begins. Roxanne's first year of recovery — navigating the wreckage of being addicted to unavailable love, confronting the reckoning, and taking those first terrifying steps toward choosing herself. This journey delves into emotional addiction, exploring the struggles of limerence and the complexities of trauma bonding, while breaking free from the cycle of the fantasy loop. 4x Amazon #1 Bestseller. Available as paperback, Kindle, and Audible.
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My Relationships are Killing Me (But They Feel Like Love)
My Relationships are Killing Me (But They Feel Like Love)
My Relationships are Killing Me (But They Feel Like Love)
The no-filter non-fiction companion to the Secret Life series explores the eight most destructive relationship patterns — named, dissected, and dismantled. This guide provides battle-tested tools that address issues like being addicted to unavailable love, emotional addiction, and trauma bonding, all drawn from over 16 years of recovery and real client work. Prepare to break free from the fantasy loop and understand limerence like never before.
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